That Sucked. Now What?: How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess
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- Author：Dr. Neeta Bhushan
- ISBN：1401974252
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Reviews
TL Thomas
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It is a simple self help book， trying to disguise itself as more。 And it isn't even a good self help book unless you are rich and the solution to hardship is "I can step away from my job and take huge trips around the world。" There are some good tidbits in here， but it could have been an article or two and felt more meaningful。 Here it felt drawn out and a bit self serving - the idea that simply no one in the world can make it without her advice （see， talking about her employee）。 It does read ve It is a simple self help book， trying to disguise itself as more。 And it isn't even a good self help book unless you are rich and the solution to hardship is "I can step away from my job and take huge trips around the world。" There are some good tidbits in here， but it could have been an article or two and felt more meaningful。 Here it felt drawn out and a bit self serving - the idea that simply no one in the world can make it without her advice （see， talking about her employee）。 It does read very smoothly， and if self help is your genre of choice， you may get more out of it than I did。 。。。more
Mir
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This book reads like any influencer self-help。 At times it is modern day spiritual mumbo jumbo。 That confused me at first until I looked up that the author’s doctorate is in dentistry。The recommendations are conflicting and at times privileged。 Not everyone can step away from their everyday habits to re-evaluate。 Taking time away from your job to decide if it is the right one for you is a privilege。 We are told to feel our emotions but don’t feel entitled。 Feel our emotions but don’t let them ou This book reads like any influencer self-help。 At times it is modern day spiritual mumbo jumbo。 That confused me at first until I looked up that the author’s doctorate is in dentistry。The recommendations are conflicting and at times privileged。 Not everyone can step away from their everyday habits to re-evaluate。 Taking time away from your job to decide if it is the right one for you is a privilege。 We are told to feel our emotions but don’t feel entitled。 Feel our emotions but don’t let them out when they are bad。 If we fail， we clearly didn’t embrace everything the author is preaching not the circumstances of our lives and society。 I also do not see the difference between the author and her entitled client。 Am I to believe she is successful just because she did her time and knows her audience when he didn’t？ She started her career as a dentist。I feel for her past hardships， but that does not qualify the author to direct the emotions of others。 This book is so packed with personal stories about her and her clients it distracts from what the advice really is。 This book is just an advertisement for her coaching and courses。 This book is a complete waste of money。 。。。more
April
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Honestly I picked this book because 1。 I saw the title 2。 all the 5 star reviews 3。 I have had a TOUGH past couple of yearsand - rather impulsively - I listened to the whole thing。 I loved the first section， “The Magical Moment of Suck。” It felt like the best bibliotherapy and pep talk。 I do feel like a victim （more than I’d like to admit） and I do even feel entitled simultaneously - and this just helped me see what I was doing and how to get out of both of those ditches。 In this first section， Honestly I picked this book because 1。 I saw the title 2。 all the 5 star reviews 3。 I have had a TOUGH past couple of yearsand - rather impulsively - I listened to the whole thing。 I loved the first section， “The Magical Moment of Suck。” It felt like the best bibliotherapy and pep talk。 I do feel like a victim （more than I’d like to admit） and I do even feel entitled simultaneously - and this just helped me see what I was doing and how to get out of both of those ditches。 In this first section， I was “translating” her ideas to fit my Biblical worldview as she read。 Some things that synced really well with my Biblical worldview were being challenged to…1。 Choose forgiveness rather than resentment2。 Choose gratitude and contentment in all circumstances3。 Take personal responsibility and don’t blame other people for your problems。“Amor fati” sounded good at first…but as I thought about it， loving God （who sovereignly allows what the author is referring to as my “fate”） makes more sense to me than loving fate itself。 That a God who loves me orchestrates suffering for a purpose （my own good， the good of others that I will serve by being able to humbly relate to them， and ultimately His glory） gives me a lot more comfort than being a highly evolved dust particle at the mercy of some cruel fate （or Dharma or Karma） that does not care if I live， die or thrive。 I didn’t like that the book used profanity。 It definitely had all the usual predictable liberal agenda-pushing and virtue signaling （watch out for the cis white males who are trying to run you over with their “privilege” - ugh）。 But I feel like the rest of the book could have been written in a couple of articles…one about “The Bounce Factor” and one about “Flying Forward，” and I would have been able to understand the concepts and benefit a lot more。 I got kind of “lost” in all the examples of people she gave。 I also got annoyed that it seemed like the people in her examples kept abandoning their careers as1。 doctors2。 lawyers3。 engineers for more “fulfilling” options such as1。 spiritual-life-coaches2。 yoga-teachers3。 Stand-up comedians （lol） 。。。more
Kathleen Selke
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Advice is a bit repetitive from other self help type books I’ve read but overall I enjoyed reading it。
Morgan Radley
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DNF at 10%。 I just can't help but feel like this was written for a 10 year old。 Everything is surface level and all of the explanations are short and pointless。 If anything， I feel like I'm just listening to a random person ramble about basic concepts of life。 DNF at 10%。 I just can't help but feel like this was written for a 10 year old。 Everything is surface level and all of the explanations are short and pointless。 If anything， I feel like I'm just listening to a random person ramble about basic concepts of life。 。。。more
Lydia
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Needs more varied experiences so more people can relate to the message of resilience， knocking home flexible thinking in the small stuff and the catastrophic stuff。 Message is right on， just doesn't come across for the average reader。 Needs more varied experiences so more people can relate to the message of resilience， knocking home flexible thinking in the small stuff and the catastrophic stuff。 Message is right on， just doesn't come across for the average reader。 。。。more
Nancy Austin
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Why must authors read their own books？ The audio book is barely listenable with her odd cadence and awkward delivery。 Content is decent but the book needed better editing。 Please don’t use aka when for instance is what you mean。 Also an author should have a broad enough vocabulary to be able to express themselves without regularly using AF as a descriptor。 Disappointed。
Tiffany
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Some good advice， but mostly skimmable。
Julie
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Not feeling it。 I don't relate to her or what she's saying。 The structure and writing style were sooo self-helpy。 I like my self help to have a veneer of psychology and this was more a 'manifest your destiny' type vibe。 Could be a helpful read for Type A strivers with lots of family issues; a description which doesn't fit me at all。 Not feeling it。 I don't relate to her or what she's saying。 The structure and writing style were sooo self-helpy。 I like my self help to have a veneer of psychology and this was more a 'manifest your destiny' type vibe。 Could be a helpful read for Type A strivers with lots of family issues; a description which doesn't fit me at all。 。。。more
Pooja Jana
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Insightful。 The book turned out to be a well-sought method to straighten out the noodles of chaos in our heads。 Would recommend！
Samantha Turley
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Eloquently and concisely written， That Sucked。 Now What？， by Dr。 Neeta Bhushan is a great read。 The tools to make positive changes in your life are offered up in a clear and step by step fashion。 We have all felt the “stuck” place that Neeta describes in her book。This book is a complete guide if you want change but don’t know where to begin。Give it a try。 You may find yourself happier after you read it。 You may also find that you have a different perspective on past situations。
R。K。 Emery
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Every now and again a book is written that is both timely and relevant。 Such is the case with 'That Sucked。 Now What？'。Everyone struggles with some part of their life， be it career， finances， relationships， self esteem， or in just being unable to understand how best to deal with life's problems。This is what Dr。 Neeta Bhushan addresses in her book and she uses personal experience to guide the reader in a positive direction。 I found her writing style to be engaging and to provoke thought。 Help you Every now and again a book is written that is both timely and relevant。 Such is the case with 'That Sucked。 Now What？'。Everyone struggles with some part of their life， be it career， finances， relationships， self esteem， or in just being unable to understand how best to deal with life's problems。This is what Dr。 Neeta Bhushan addresses in her book and she uses personal experience to guide the reader in a positive direction。 I found her writing style to be engaging and to provoke thought。 Help yourself in this complex， fast moving and often stressful world。。。 pick up a copy。 。。。more
Gwen Over
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This was absolutely incredible。 Such a great book to have on hand for when life gets really tough。 I would absolutely recommend to anyone/everyone because she gives so many valuable pieces of coaching to help in all aspects of life。
Lydia
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Maybe it was a 4 star…it just felt like so many others I’ve read
Mindy H
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I recently had the pleasure of reading "That Sucked。 Now What？" by Neeta Bhushan， and I have to say， it's a game-changer！ Neeta's writing style is engaging and relatable， and her insights into overcoming adversity are both inspiring and practical。 Having had the pleasure of meeting Neeta in person， I can say that she is just as amazing in real life as she is on paper。 Her book is a must-read for anyone looking to navigate life's challenges with grace and resilience。 Highly recommended！ I recently had the pleasure of reading "That Sucked。 Now What？" by Neeta Bhushan， and I have to say， it's a game-changer！ Neeta's writing style is engaging and relatable， and her insights into overcoming adversity are both inspiring and practical。 Having had the pleasure of meeting Neeta in person， I can say that she is just as amazing in real life as she is on paper。 Her book is a must-read for anyone looking to navigate life's challenges with grace and resilience。 Highly recommended！ 。。。more
Brown Girl Bookshelf
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If you have ever felt stuck in a constant stream of bad luck， we may have just the book for you。 "That Sucked。 Now What？ How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess" by Dr。 Bhushan Neeta uses a blend of cheerful optimism and tough love to delve into the intricacies of connecting more deeply with your emotions， developing coping mechanisms for obstacles， and learning to soar despite them。The book is divided into three parts:In "The Magical Moment of Suck，" Dr。 Neeta helps readers i If you have ever felt stuck in a constant stream of bad luck， we may have just the book for you。 "That Sucked。 Now What？ How to Embrace the Joy in Chaos and Find Magic in the Mess" by Dr。 Bhushan Neeta uses a blend of cheerful optimism and tough love to delve into the intricacies of connecting more deeply with your emotions， developing coping mechanisms for obstacles， and learning to soar despite them。The book is divided into three parts:In "The Magical Moment of Suck，" Dr。 Neeta helps readers identify the core emotions that may cause them to dwell in a negative headspace。 The second part， "The Bounce Factor，" discusses four factors that might hinder moving forward after a negative experience and ways to address them。 Finally， "Fly Forward，” highlights the benefits of releasing damaging tendencies。 Dr。 Neeta's writing is kind， gentle， and empathetic。 Throughout the book， readers will find helpful journaling exercises， charts， and thought-provoking questions to aid in their self-reflection。"That Sucked， Now What？" offers valuable advice that is well worth considering。 Even as a self-help book skeptic， and generally resilient and optimistic person， I found myself reflecting deeply on several chapters。 Anyone looking to embrace the joy in chaos and find magic in the mess will find something to appreciate in Dr。 Neeta’s guidance。 。。。more
Pumehana Ahn
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Friends， you need this book more than you know。 For those of you on your transformation and healing journey: you cannot “heal” yourself into worthiness。 You cannot “fix” yourself into healing。The line “You’re trauma is valid and real and whole… You are not broken， you are not worthless…。” This was EXACTLY what I needed to hear at this exact moment in my life。Thank you， thank you Dr。 Neeta for your message and your courage to share your story and speak love and life to our shadow selves 😭
Jay K
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I cannot recommend this book enough。 Dr。 Bushan wrote an amazing book that guides you through a truly meaningful， positive mindset shift。 Broken down into three parts， with easy to digest chapters that are both insightful and actionable。Make sure you check out the recap & reflection corner at the end of chapters！The introduction sets the tone for the book and helps you to understand what to expect as you read through it。 The afterward is one of the most powerful personal anecdotes you will ever I cannot recommend this book enough。 Dr。 Bushan wrote an amazing book that guides you through a truly meaningful， positive mindset shift。 Broken down into three parts， with easy to digest chapters that are both insightful and actionable。Make sure you check out the recap & reflection corner at the end of chapters！The introduction sets the tone for the book and helps you to understand what to expect as you read through it。 The afterward is one of the most powerful personal anecdotes you will ever read。 Truly worth the journey through the book！My favorite quotations are:"We've all got a chip on our shoulder about something。" （p。 52）"Just like a satisfying gym session， a positive stressful state doesn't wipe you out or work you to exhaustion。 It's about making the micro-leaps of resilience moment to moment。" （p。 90）"I can't wait for you to feel that breeze on the beach。" （p。 118）"Igniting is when we state clearly and definitively what we want。" （p。 142） 。。。more
Rick Yvanovich
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I listened to this audiobook whilst clocking up my daily stepsI like the genuine stories shared that helped bring the book alive and resulted in me doing more steps than planned each day so I could listen moreLife does suck for everyone at some point in time and understanding that and learning what to do following the how to steps is invaluable
Abi Huff Hobgood
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This book left a terrible taste in my mouth。 I really need to stop reading self development written by insanely privileged people who can afford to do things like leave their medical practices， fly to Paris， move to another state into a mansion， and just start a new startup when their first one fails。 Who lives like this？The entire book rang out wildly inauthentic and nonspecific。 The final chapter is proof of this—our author writes about how unfair it was that an employee left her and made her This book left a terrible taste in my mouth。 I really need to stop reading self development written by insanely privileged people who can afford to do things like leave their medical practices， fly to Paris， move to another state into a mansion， and just start a new startup when their first one fails。 Who lives like this？The entire book rang out wildly inauthentic and nonspecific。 The final chapter is proof of this—our author writes about how unfair it was that an employee left her and made her life so hard by leaving。 She writes about how this ex-employee left because she read this book’s unfinished draft and felt inspired… then our author writes about how she shouldn’t have left without notice because the book wasn’t finished yet so our silly ex employee wasn’t going to know how to finish the fly forward framework！ Silly silly employee。 “How will she know how to advocate and be her best self if she doesn’t stay working for me？？？？” Wasn’t that the entire point？She also perpetuated this idea that gen Z is not capable of failing and they’re unprepared for the future。 Girl， you try developing your brain during a global pandemic。 Let us all also remember that ALL 18 year olds since the beginning of time are unprepared for life。 。。。more
Eli Weinstein
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Neeta is a powerhouse when it comes to compassion， empathy and realness and this book embodies it all。Life can suck some times， so now what！ As a mental health professional I’m constantly working with those struggling with this question， and Neeta hits the mark in this book！！
Tanmeet
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Imagine being at rock bottom but trusting deep in your bones that there is a path to something better。 We cannot prevent bad things， they happen。 But the question is what do you do after they happen？ Where do you go and how do you possibly find the way？ This book is like a loving hand holding you every step， no joke。 It's like having an incredible coach right next to you giving you the clear but compassionate guidance you need。 Neeta Bhushan has not only lived through the suck， some of the most Imagine being at rock bottom but trusting deep in your bones that there is a path to something better。 We cannot prevent bad things， they happen。 But the question is what do you do after they happen？ Where do you go and how do you possibly find the way？ This book is like a loving hand holding you every step， no joke。 It's like having an incredible coach right next to you giving you the clear but compassionate guidance you need。 Neeta Bhushan has not only lived through the suck， some of the most sucky moments imaginable， but she has also shepherded countless others through theirs。 She knows the messy middle but she also knows what it feels like to fly forward and why that's the magic of all of it。 The book is so practical， so actionable that I feel like I will keep it on my nightstand to pull out repeatedly to remind myself that there is a way If you want to not only rewrite your story but live it out in a bolder， more joyful way， you must get this book now。 。。。more
Noopur Luthra
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Borrowed this from a friend and wow。 I couldn’t put this down。 Start to finish - this is a quick and easy read- and takes you on a journey， through the authors anecdotes as well as practical tools to help you heal， reframe your perspective and the stories we have in our minds。 Definitely a MUST read to share with your friends！ I recommend it。 :）
Jadah Sellner
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Feeling stuck？ Ruminating in self-doubt？ Questioning why you self-sabotage？ In this book， Dr。 Neeta compassionately guides you through the messy terrains of being human and gives you actionable tools to heal， find happiness， and rebuild your life after sucky moments。
Sigute
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This is THE handbook that gives you not only practical tools to get you OUT of sucky moments， but the momentum to fly forward past them。
Christine Chang
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What I like about this book is that it isn’t an encouragement book。 It gives framework into HOW to actually move through hard times and make peace with our past。 A simple read with effective tools！
Kelsey Chittick
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This book is a must-read when it comes to surviving and thriving after tough moments。 The wisdom and practical advice guides you every step of the way。
Francesca
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This book is written in a way that makes you feel you are talking to your best friend。 It will make you laugh， it will make you cry， and it will help you remember that no matter what happens in life， you have beautiful wings to fly forward in any situation。 LOVED it！
Tehzeeb Ahmed
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A book that I patiently waited for months to read 。 So relatable 。。 more so because so many of us had the same shared sucky moments yet we didn't realise we were doing it on our own 。This book is medicine for those times when you feel stuck in the mad and you really feel like it all sucks ！ Loved it so so much 😍 A book that I patiently waited for months to read 。 So relatable 。。 more so because so many of us had the same shared sucky moments yet we didn't realise we were doing it on our own 。This book is medicine for those times when you feel stuck in the mad and you really feel like it all sucks ！ Loved it so so much 😍 。。。more
Leah Caplanis
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